BJ Magic

Give the most turned-on, confident & fun BJs of your life!

Join me for an in-person workshop where I’ll teach you how to become a BJ royal and give your partners new levels of full-body pleasure and spine-tingling bliss.

You’ll learn to how to tap into your own turn-on, so you enjoy BJs just as much as your partner—and feel safe, joyful and empowered while giving them!

In this 2-hour in-person workshop you’ll learn:

  • The #1 most important element of a great BJ (It’s not what you think)

  • How to activate your own turn-on so you enjoy going down on your partner as much as they love receiving

  • Ways to rewire your neural pathways so you go from dreading head to loving it and feeling like an empowered BJ Queen or Royal

  • Tools for clearing away old stories around BJs so you can choose your own narrative about pleasuring penises

  • The steps for creating a pre-BJ ritual that connects you to your radiance, power and confidence

  • How to confidently initiate, bring your partner to a slow boil and then lead them into cosmic levels of pleasure

  • Detailed techniques for bringing new levels of pleasure to penises

  • Techniques for helping your partner(s) experience less localized and more full-body bliss

  • Ways to make BJs fun and sexy instead of a chore or obligation

  • How to make BJs an act that builds more love and connection between you and your partner(s)

  • How to honor your own boundaries and get self-consent before ever touching a penis

  • My 5-step pleasure map for confidently giving cosmic-level BJs that are orgasmic for both you and your partner(s)

You’ll also receive these bonus goodies:

  • BJ Magic notes, so you can return to the material again and again, and don’t feel pressured to take notes if you don’t want to

  • A cheat sheet of all the techniques and strokes we cover, so you can try them out on your own timeline without having to worry that you might forget them

  • A guided pleasure meditation audio, so you can continue to grow your connection to your body and your turn-on after the workshop

Does any of this resonate?

  • You don't feel confident going down on your partner, so you try to avoid it, or get it over with quickly

  • Instead of feeling turned on at the thought of giving your partner oral pleasure, your whole body feels shut-down or dread

  • You use BJs to placate your partner when you don't want penetrative sex. You can both feel it. You don't love giving them and your partner can feel you're just doing it to "get things over with"

  • You get bored while pleasuring your partner's penis. Your jaw gets sore. You don't know when or how to change up your technique to keep it fun and interesting for both of you

  • You go into performative mode and start giving the kind of BJs you see in porn--but you feel turned off or even disassociated while you're doing it. Which makes you want to give your partner oral pleasure even less

  • You *want* to want to give BJs and give your partner pleasure, but you just don't. You feel guilty about not being more into pleasuring your partner and you don't know how to get out of this cycle

In this workshop I’ll show you how to transform your BJ mindset so you go from dreading head to feeling like an empowered BJ royal

The Details

Wednesday June 5, 2024

7.00 to 9.00 pm

The Shelterwood Collective

108 S. Jackson Street

Seattle, WA 98104

$79 (sliding scale available)

Let me introduce myself:

Hi! I’m Olaiya

I’m a certified pleasure and empowerment coach. I believe pleasure is not a privilege but your birthright.

I believe we all deserve to feel at home in our bodies and connect with our inner power and radiance.

I specialize in helping women and gender-expansive humans feel at home in their bodies, reconnect with pleasure and have life-changing orgasms.

You can read more about me here.

Here’s what happens when you sprinkle some BJ Magic into your life

Feeling safe, confident and turned-on while giving BJs can be a game-changer on its own.

I’ve watched my clients go from feeling dread and resentment around giving oral sex (and having it be a point of conflict in their relationships), to feeling like confident BJ Queens and Royals when they learn to tap into their turn-on, honor their own boundaries and feel free to play and explore!

But that’s really just the icing on the cake. Being able to access your pleasure and turn-on leads to WAY more than hot sex.

Great sex is transformational.

Learning how to be fully in your body and deeply present during sex helps you to be more fully present in everything you do.

Growing your capacity for sensual and sexual pleasure increases your ability to feel pleasure as you go through your day—in everything from savoring your morning matcha to noticing the softness of your sheet when you get into bed at night.

Knowing how to ignite your own turn-on, so that you have access to it whenever you like helps you feel empowered and amplifies your radiance and magnetism

Great BJs and great sex carry over from the bedroom into your life, amplifying your confidence, your power, your aliveness and your joy!

F. A. Q.

What genders and orientations is this workshop for?

This workshop is open to anyone who wants to learn to pleasure penises from a place of safety, confidence and pleasure. All genders and orientations are welcome

How many people will there be in the group?

There are 14 spots available.

I’ve been in wellness spaces that are fatphobic / transphobic / homophobic / ageist / centered around whiteness. Will that be the case here?

Nope. This space will be inclusive of all participants regardless of sexual orientation, gender, body size, age or skin color.

I’m an introvert. Will I feel comfortable in this group class?

I’m an introvert so I feel you! I understand the needs of introverts and prioritize creating a space that respects your comfort. You are welcome to participate and share to whatever level feels good for you and all class activities are optional.

I have experienced sexual trauma. Will this be a good space for me?

I am not a trauma specialist, therapist or mental health professional. I do not specialize in trauma resolution and healing. If that is the work that you feel would most serve you at this time and you need some recommendations of coaches or mental health professionals to work with, let me know and I’d be happy to refer you.

That said, I am a trauma-informed coach and continuously strive to create safer spaces for people with trauma. If you’d like to chat about what that looks like, or if this is a good fit for you, feel free to get in touch.

Is the location accessible for people with disabilities?

This is an old building and sadly there are no elevators. The workshop space is up one flight of stairs on the second floor. I will be doing workshops online and at other more accessible locations in the future.

I have a question not addressed here. Can I get in touch with you?

Absolutely. Email me here with any additional questions and I’ll get back to you within 24 hours (excluding weekends).